The “dry drunk” syndrome, discovered in Alcoholics Anonymous, applies to other addictions, including pornography and sex addiction. At the “dry drunk” level, all you are focused on is abstinence and changing the outside without giving consideration what is on the inside that needs to change. Real recovery work begins when you begin to investigate the unresourceful beliefs and attitudes from …
After a long hiatus from recovery, Malik (name changed for privacy) a Purify Your Gaze member, shares his breakthrough in the area of having a healthy relationship with one’s emotions on his first Sobriety Mastermind meeting he attended. Here are his realizations: “I just got off my first Sobriety Mastermind call. I am so grateful to Allah (SWT) for allowing …
It’s great that we are finally seeing efforts to raise awareness about the dangers of pornography and the vulnerability it poses especially to our youth. The truth is exposure alone doesn’t lead to someone developing an addiction. That’s half of the equation. The other part of the equation is an individual who is not well mentally, emotionaly and spiritually. How …
Once upon a time society accepted advertisements like the one below that portrayed smoking cigarettes as a healthy and necessary pastime.It took decades for people to accept the research that demonstrated without a shadow of the doubt that smoking harms your health and well being. We are finally starting to see the same happen with porn now. Research and neuroscience are demonstrating the …
I had managed to stop watching pornography for a long time, and then, I stumbled. I tried everything that had seemed to work before, but during those turbulent six weeks, I struggled to regain my footing. I reassessed my commitment to change. I asked, yet again, “Why is the change I seek so necessary and urgent?”, seeking to find new …
Do you find yourself watching a particular theme of pornography or acting out to certain fetishes, and at the same time you’re not sure why you are so enamored by them? This article explains how unresolved trauma can be the connection you’re missing.
Brother Abdullah was doing all the “right things” in his recovery. He was taking care of himself by having long stretches of time where his unwanted sexual behaviors were absent and his daily self-care rituals were complete. However, after what seemed to be a few successful weeks of recovery, what followed were a series of relapses back to his unwanted …
Are you afraid of being alone? Do you do everything in your power to avoid being by yourself because you know that would lead you to act out to your unwanted sexual behaviors? Brother Hasan had a debilitating fear of being alone. He wanted his wife’s company all the time, because he knew that once he was alone, he would …
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