Your Mental Health Is Not a Sign of Your Religiosity

As he stared down at the page, his mind wandered to the conversation he had had with his wife earlier that morning. No matter how hard he tried to refocus on the page, he could not stop replaying what she had said to him. He couldn’t understand why he wasn’t able to focus since reading …

How I Learned to Prioritize Healing Every Day

I never owned a laptop before, but I decided it was about time to get one. In a way I never expected, I became consumed by an urge to set up my new device with all kinds of apps and software. Day after day, I found hours slipping through my fingers as I sat in …

Hope: Fueling Your Recovery from Pornography addiction

The road to recovery is full of thorns. The journey is filled with hardships and difficulties, which require patience, perseverance and a very strong commitment to overcome. Speaking from my own experience, often times I feel like recovery work is overwhelming and draining, so much so that sometimes I feel very exhausted and feel like …

Stories Are Like Pearls from Heaven

A couple of months had passed by since the end of Ramadan, and the Thursday class the Shaykh used to facilitate was finally starting back up again. It’s a class focusing on spirituality and activism geared towards young professionals. However, this time around, the shaykh was requesting one young professional to present each week on …

Climbing Out From Rock Bottom

The Qurʾan documents the story of a young boy who was abandoned by his older siblings. The very people who were meant to protect him turned against him. He went through the traumatic experience of being kidnapped by his brothers, physically assaulted, having his shirt ripped off, and then being thrown to the bottom of …

Having Trouble Lowering Your Gaze at Work? It’s Not What You Think

Are you having trouble lowering your gaze at work? You are certainly not alone. Brother Hasan*, one of my coaching clients, had recently been having a strong need for validation from the opposite sex, and he often found his gaze wandering at his workplace and online. He shares how it had been impacting him: Br. …

What If In Two Years Nothing Has Changed?

February 2nd, 2017 “This is the fourth time this month. A well-meaning brother asks me if I’m looking to get married. Obviously, I would love to. But I haven’t gone more than two months without acting out. More than five years ago I started my recovery. Who would have thought I’d still be right here. …

3 Addiction Recovery Lessons From The Day Of Ashura

(Summary of Audio Training) The Day Of Ashura is a special day for Muslims where we are encouraged to fast the 9th and 10th day of Muharram as a commemoration of the saving of the Prophet Musa (may God’s peace and blessings be upon him) and the Children of Israel from the oppression and harm of …

Sharing Your Secret: How to Confide in Someone You Trust – Part 1

Part 1 | Part 2 Last night I turned back to my unwanted sexual behaviors – again. As bad as it sounds, my routine afterwards had become almost automatic. Immediately after, I’d clear my history and delete any traces of content I had watched, take a shower, and then stand in prayer. The anguish would …