There comes a point in your life where you realize that you need help and you can’t stop your unwanted sexual behaviours alone.
“Stepping out of your comfort zone by doing something different is indeed something that is uncomfortable and frightening. But it is just the right ingredient that is needed to help you grow and expand the potential of your recovery from your unwanted sexual behaviours. To experience that change that you desire, you have to face what you’re afraid of. You have to take that first step.”
This usually involves you coming out of your comfort zone, whether that be by joining one of our programs, or speaking to a coach or counselor, or going to a support group meeting. It is something that involves you admitting you have a problem and you need help.
Stepping out of your comfort zone by doing something different is indeed something that is uncomfortable and frightening. But it is just the right ingredient that is needed to help you grow and expand the potential of your recovery from your unwanted sexual behaviours. To experience that change that you desire, you have to face what you’re afraid of. You have to take that first step.
Here are some comments that members of the Breaking Free Program shared about when they realized it was time for them to get help:
“The moment I knew I needed help was when I was in a cycle of acting out sexually so badly that I was making tawba (repentance) every night, and the next day committing the same sin. “I wasn’t able to stop, even though it was hurting me so much. I was so lost and confused, and didn’t know why I couldn’t stop. I was desperate for help, from anyone. It was desperation, for me, which helped me to get help.”Sister Suad
“I tried different sorts of thing like abstaining from internet, watched videos related to pornographic addiction from various Mufti’s but I have always relapsed.”Brother Patrick
“I avoided that realization that I needed help when I started to think I had some sort of control of the situation. I thought because I had a few weeks of not acting out, that I had some sort of control, but really it was all the “dry drunk” syndrome.”Sister Nasreen
However, as Einstein once said,
“Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome.”Albert Einstein
The path of recovery is about not just taking that first step, but continuously taking steps out of your comfort zone. It’s a lifestyle change, as one brother shared about the path of his recovery:
“We never “arrive” at a destination of sobriety, but it is about lifestyle change. To me, this spiritual change mirrors the physical one. If one wants to lose weight, one never reaches a point where they can relax and just eat whatever they want. It is a lifestyle change. One changes what they eat, drink, and even thinks about what they will do at a party with unhealthy food beforehand.”Brother Muhammad
You need to always be growing and proactively taking steps to change. Otherwise, you won’t be progressing in your recovery.
What are your thoughts on the common stumbling blocks for those just beginning their journeys to freedom from unwanted sexual behaviors? Have any words of advice to share? Share them with us in a comment below.