I wake up early in the morning, and I get ready to go off to Fajr prayer, because going to Fajr is important to me. Although, I don’t share it with anyone, I’m furious. As I drive to meet my Lord, I give the empty passenger chair a backhanded blow with my right arm. My face is contorted in confusion, …
‘Why bother with all of this?” Br. Haseeb, a coaching client of mine was frustrated. It felt like the more committed he was in trying to make the lifestyle changes that would support his recovery, like getting to sleep earlier, the more annoying challenges would rise up in his path. It was bothering him especially because for the first time since he had …
Brother Walid was frustrated that he had been in recovery for a number of years now, and with every progress he made, he still fell back into his unwanted sexual behaviors. In a recent coaching call together, it finally hit him what had been missing in his recovery all along: “I was frustrated because I can’t solve this… but that’s …
One of the points of frustration for many people struggling with their unwanted sexual behaviors is their relationship with Allah SWT. However, since starting their personal recoveries at Purify Your Gaze, many members were able to make great breakthroughs in this area of their life, ma sha Allah. As Allah SWT says in Hadith Qudsi: “I am as My servant …
Have you ever felt that the only time you feel close and sincere to Allah is after you relapse back to your unwanted sexual behaviors? Brother Ismail would often try to make himself feel bad about relapsing, as a way of drawing near to Allah. “Sometimes I feel that I’m the closest to Allah right when I do the repentance …
On the outside, everything was going well for Brother Hafeez in his recovery. He was abstaining from his unwanted behaviors, he was taking care of himself, and he had structure to his day with preplanned activities that were meant to bring nurture to him. This was all until a trial exposed and mirrored back his inner reality to himself. He …
A lot of people come to the conclusion that “me being a bad Muslim is when I indulge in my addiction, and me being a good muslim is when I pray on time, do my obligations, lower my gaze, and don’t look at things that I’m not supposed to look at it …” But that only takes you so far. …
Here is a story in Sahih al-Bukhari that recovering addicts can learn from. What can we do to take the lessons and apply them to our day to day lives?
I was at a Starbucks doing some work and a man probably in his late 50s there saw me so focused and typing away so he started a friendly conversation with me asking me what I was working on. Intent on getting back to work I told him that I work with sex addicts thinking that would probably “scare him …
You may believe that success is only about counting the number of days that you are abstinent from your unwanted sexual behaviors. While that is a measure of success, it is not the greatest fruit of recovery. Men and women who have sought some sort of help for their unwanted sexual behaviors in our programs, whether that be through joining …
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