Inside The Recovery Community Newsletter – Issue #4

Highlights: 8 Months of Sobriety Is Easy: Carlos marks his 8 month sobriety milestone in recovering from unwanted sexual behaviors. He chronicles his recovery journey over the years. Interview with Hamza: Hamza moves into the new phase of his life as a man, and we explored some of the focal points in his recovery as …

Pornography: The Perfect Bond Fantasy

Br. Nabeel sought out help from the Purify Your Gaze program for his unwanted sexual behaviors. Having been engaged in watching pornography for a number of years, he hit a new low by visiting massage parlors. I asked brother Nabeel what he thought caused him to hit to a new low. “The reason why I …

What To Do If You Find Yourself Breaking The Rules In Your Recovery

Brother Tariq consistently found himself breaking rules in recovery. For many months in our work together in coaching calls, we would set up filters and boundaries to stop him from engaging in his unwanted sexual behaviors, but he was obsessed in finding loopholes and finding ways to transgress them. “I have a software that shuts …

How You May Be Trying To Seek Nearness To Allah By Relapsing More

Have you ever felt that the only time you feel close and sincere to Allah is after you relapse back to your unwanted sexual behaviors? Brother Ismail would often try to make himself feel bad about relapsing, as a way of drawing near to Allah. “Sometimes I feel that I’m the closest to Allah right …

The Role Of Self-Care In Recovery From Sex Addiction

While the concept of self-care seems self-explanatory, the absence of it is the single, most predictable and measurable cause for a relapse, or acting out on your unwanted sexual behaviors. Phrases such as “take care of yourself” do not get translated into action in today’s success and achievement oriented society, where the objective is to …

How To Cope With Feelings Of Loneliness As A Single Muslim

Amina has been having a very hard time trying to get married. She sees her friends getting married all around her, and the despair of not finding the right spouse is getting exacerbated as she looks through their wedding photos on Facebook. She begins to doubt herself and feels utter frustration with the process. Many …