Why Despite My Efforts I Was Not Able To Break Free

I wake up early in the morning, and I get ready to go off to Fajr prayer, because going to Fajr is important to me. Although, I don’t share it with anyone, I’m furious. As I drive to meet my Lord, I give the empty passenger chair a backhanded blow with my right arm. My …

Have You Submitted To Allah?

Brother Walid was frustrated that he had been in recovery for a number of years now, and with every progress he made, he still fell back into his unwanted sexual behaviors. In a recent coaching call together, it finally hit him what had been missing in his recovery all along: “I was frustrated because I …

How You May Be Trying To Seek Nearness To Allah By Relapsing More

Have you ever felt that the only time you feel close and sincere to Allah is after you relapse back to your unwanted sexual behaviors? Brother Ismail would often try to make himself feel bad about relapsing, as a way of drawing near to Allah. “Sometimes I feel that I’m the closest to Allah right …

A Story In Sahih Al-Bukhari That Recovering Addicts Can Learn From

Abu Sa’id Al-Khudri (may Allah be pleased with him) reported: The Prophet of Allah (peace be upon him) said: “There was a man from among a nation before you who killed ninety-nine people and then made an inquiry about the most learned person on the earth. He was directed to a monk. He came to …

My Chance Meeting With A Recovering Alcoholic At Starbucks

I was at a Starbucks doing some work and a man probably in his late 50s there saw me so focused and typing away so he started a friendly conversation with me asking me what I was working on. Intent on getting back to work I told him that I work with sex addicts thinking …

How Sister H Reclaimed Her True Self In Recovery

You may believe that success is only about counting the number of days that you are abstinent from your unwanted sexual behaviors. While that is a measure of success, it is not the greatest fruit of recovery. Men and women who have sought some sort of help for their unwanted sexual behaviors in our programs, …